Why Do Entrepreneurs End Up Divorced?
(It’s Not What You Think)

The divorce rate amongst entrepreneurs is between 43-48%.

That’s alarmingly high.

I know what you’re thinking... only entrepreneurs who run into money problems or neglect their families end up divorced, right?

But what if I told you that many entrepreneurs who end up divorced, were successful and dedicated to their families?

And what if I told you the real reason so many entrepreneurs end up divorced, has nothing to do with money and so-called work-life balance?

It’s not what you think

Not many people can do what an entrepreneur does.

Not many people can think independently, believe in themselves, apply themselves, make sacrifices, take risks, and endure failure until they learn enough from it to succeed.

If you have these virtues and you’re not an entrepreneur already, then chances are high you’ll become one.

And having these virtues is what makes people gravitate towards you and want to be with you.

But here’s what you don’t understand…

Admiration and adoration can mask someone’s true heart.

Like like a trojan horse virus, it can be used to win your trust and gain access to your innermost life. But over time the mask slips and reveals what was under the surface from the beginning… a deep envy.

Conventional wisdom says that as long as you’re successful then everything will be fine, right?

Wrong.

Your virtues make you a target... and success can make your life harder in ways you can’t even imagine. 

Narcissists hate entrepreneurs

They hate your drive, they hate your dreams, they hate your confidence, and they especially hate your success.

Narissists want people to be drawn to them, and to praise and admire them the same way they praise and admire you.

They want to be you but they don’t want to do what it takes to become you, and so deep down they always see themselves as inferior.

But instead of looking within and improving themselves, they blame you for their short-comings and label you their oppressor… someone whose mere existence keeps them from elevating.

This is the why they hate you and want to destroy you.

And the more virtuous you are, the worse their hatred is.

The entrepreneur’s strength
is also their most lethal weakness

An entrepreneur has the power to drive themselves with an atom-splitting intensity that average people don’t have. It comes from deeply held convictions about how they see themselves and the world. That’s their strength.

But this strength is also their most lethal weakness.

You see, a person (you) gets to a certain point in life where they realize that a conventional career based on a 9-5 full-time job will never work. Try as they might, they just don’t fit that mold and they never will. They need freedom, autonomy, and challenge just to feel normal (money is secondary). And since becoming an entrepreneur is the only way they’ll ever achieve these, it becomes a necessity... there simply is no other way.

But this realization typically hits them around their early 30’s when they’re likely to have started a family.

And this is where it gets dangerous.

How?

Because when this happens and you decide to become an entrepreneur, you will be rebuilding yourself from the foundations while bearing the load of other people’s expectations.

Your life will become very top heavy.

And your innate desire to “make it work”, coupled with your superhuman work ethic, will keep you working all day and lying awake all night.

It will make you a background figure in your family, and rob you of influence in your children’s lives.

It will keep you feeling like you need to prove your worth as a person by achieving more.

And it will blind you to seeing the truth, which is that your strength is likely being weaponized against you.

How can your strength be weaponized against you?

Here’s something someone shared with me…

Notice the pattern, “things were always getting in the way of my dreams”.

Have you ever felt that whenever something good happens to you, something bad happens straight afterwards?

Or whenever you make progress towards creating this better life for yourself and for those you love, some crisis erupts out of nowhere?

Here’s a bit of unconventional wisdom:

Success will not fix this, it will make it worse.

Because like I said, the virtues that lead you to succeed make you a target, and if you’re experiencing the same kind of problems as above, then it’s highly likely that you have something, or someone, in your life opposing you and trying to undo you.

Until you wake up and recognize the pattern, and identify the source of this opposition, your drive to make things work is your most lethal liability.

Because it will keep you stuck in a loop of trying to fix problems that are:

a) manufactured

and

b) designed to sabotage your every effort to solve them.

The longer you stay in this loop, the more you’ll start to believe that nothing you do nor achieve, will ever be good enough.

Which is true, it won’t be.

But here’s the trap:

You will believe that you are the reason

And when that belief creeps in, it doesn’t matter how much wealth you build, nor how much success you achieve.

That deep sense of failure and guilt will crop up to rob you of the fruits of your success (peace and happiness), time and time again, until it drains you completely... and you will fall.

If you’re an entrepreneur or a self-motivated high achiever but you…

Live in a state of chaos and constant crisis

Live in a fog of confusion that makes it impossible to think clear

Feel like you don’t fit the mold

Feel unknown, even in your own family

Feel unknown, even to yourself

Experience random fights over nothing that mysteriously happen right after something positive occurs in your life

Have higher standards than anyone else in your life and consistently live up to them, even though it often costs you, but you’re constantly denigrated and undermined by these people… and they seize every opportunity to make you look bad

Are surrounded by frenemies and maybe even married to one

Know that your potential is far greater than what your life right now, in terms of your relationships and the opportunities they’re bringing, will ever allow you to fulfil

And if you…

Believe that becoming a successful entrepreneur will fix all of this

Then what I have for you is the most important thing you’ll ever hear.

Truth is like an iceberg, and right now you can only see what lies above the surface.

But I see down to the bottom.

And I’m here to tell you that unless you see what I see, there is a good chance your drive and desire to succeed as an entrepreneur will lead to your downfall.

I’m going to take you to the bottom of the iceberg.

I’m going to share with you my story, infused with the insights and revelations I’ve gained as an entrepreneur.

You will learn how I got lost in a hall of mirrors in my 20’s and how it took me until I was 40 to find my way out of it.

You will get my unique perspective from being a writer for successful business gurus, as well as a designer, and from having been a private defense consultant.

And you will get an unconventional wisdom that unlocks the journey you’re on… the journey to find your true self.